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Hostess with the Mostest

Filed under: Mom Life · September 2, 2017

Now that we are officially 2 weeks into the school year let the festivities begin! There are birthday parties, play dates, mommy meet ups, happy hours, dinners, athletic events, fundraisers. I can go on and on. These can get to be quite overwhelming for new moms or moms of multiple kiddos. It’s especially awkward for those moms at a brand new school. It’s like you have to make friends all over again. Omg! Sometimes I feel like I am getting to old for that part. Who needs new friends right?

Fresh flowers

It does feel good to be invited to all of these great activities but let’s face it sometimes you just don’t want to go and you definitely avoid hosting them at your house. Yes, I am talking about me. I really don’t like hosting stuff at my house. I don’t like the preparation anxiety or the feeling that they might judge me once they come into my personal space. I know it sounds strange, right? Come on you know the first thing people say is you have a lovely home. But what they are really wondering is how long have you lived here, is it always this clean, why are those dogs jumping on me? Yes, my dogs love new visitors. They get buck wild. Like embarrassingly buck wild!

Tapas and Vino

Yesterday my daughter had a play date with a friend from school. I have seen this mom around school for years but we always just said hi and bye. I never really paid much attention to her until we ended up at the same new school. I always thought she was friendly so I invited her to barre class with me. Then she asked if my daughter could come over for a play date. I said sure! She invited us over too but I had a lot going on with the other two kids. So, I told her that I would come over a little earlier to have a drink with her. Even though I considered just swinging by and picking my daughter up, I decided to go in and just be in the moment. (Yes my daily meditation is paying off)

DIY strawberry roses

We arrived at 6:30 and the house was very welcoming. She had beautiful scented candles burning and a nice spread of goodies. There was wine and cheese for the adults and cookies and popcorn for the kids. It was simple but perfect. I ended up staying for an hour and a half and enjoyed two glasses of the best pink moscato that I have ever had. It was a fun and relaxing way to end the busy week. I also discovered that she liked empowering events and workshops and is into a lot of things that I like too. #newfriendalert

Pink Moscato

On the way home I thought hmm… I think I can do that. I can be the hostess with the mostest too. All I need is some nice new serving ware and a few candles. No need to miss out on making new friends and having a great time. Sometimes we just have to step out of our norm and say goodbye to “play date” anxiety. Needless to say I am up early on Crate and Barrel and Pinterest planning my next “play date”! Here are a few tips to help you too!

Less is more
Candles never go out of style
Fresh flowers are cool but so are artificial ones
Soft music helps bring good vibes
Just enjoy the moment

XO,

Sharonda

*Pictures via Pinterest

Back to Reality

Filed under: Mom Life · August 20, 2016

The summer has come and gone and well, I guess it is time to snap back to reality. We had a great summer though. The kids enjoyed a few weeks of basketball, soccer, and fun camp. We took our annual trip to Atlantis and Disney. (I think I could live in the Bahamas a few months out of the year) I celebrated my birthday all of July until I caught a horrible head cold. That sucked!

I will truly miss sleeping in until 8 a.m. (lol), the late nights watching television and not doing homework five nights a week. I will miss not having to cook. Ok I don’t really cook during the school year either. (I am so happy Grown has a drive thru) But, I am looking forward to a real schedule and having a little more flexibility during the day. Plus I get to have lunch with my mommy friends whenever I want.

Who am I kidding? It is about to be a three-ring circus around here. We have three kids playing soccer. (One on travel team) That means three different practices and three different games. This year basketball is in the rotation too and oh there’s tutoring! Not to mention homework. Yes my least favorite word. Then play dates and games and conferences and PTA meetings and well I am getting exhausted just thinking about it.

Oh well, I am off to get these last few school supplies. And a bottle of wine!

#momlife

What’s Stopping YOU?

Filed under: Mom Life · June 21, 2016

I was talking to a few girlfriends the other night over drinks and you know how conversations change after the drinks lol. Don’t get the wrong impression we talked about life, how we met each other and well….girl talk. I shared my vision for Sporty Mommas and how much I want to inspire other moms. One of the ladies shared how she wanted to get a new job. Our other friend told about us her new love for vlogging but she was afraid to publish her videos. So I asked her what is stopping you?

As she answered with the normal responses (fear, time, not good enough…) I heard a little whisper saying “What is stopping YOU, Sharonda?” I paused and gave some of the same excuses… my kids are young, I don’t have a lot of time, my husband will think I am crazy but the truth is I am stopping me. We all have this fear of failing or not living up to the hype. So how do we get out of our own way? When are we going to live unapologetically and just do the damn thing? How many years before you finish that book? How many years before you go on that diet? How many years before you sell that painting that hundreds of people will love?

I truly believe that we all have gifts and those gifts are meant to be shared with the world. I may not reach a hundred thousand women but if I can inspire a few, I will be happy. It is not going to be easy but if it is meant to be and you do the work, you will be successful. As one of my mom’s friends always told me “Nothing beats a failure, but a try” So today I pledge to be ME, unapologetically and well…. I am going for it. Are you?