You know the phrase “What a difference a year can make”? Well mommas, it has been one hell of a year. Last Thanksgiving morning my son was sick. We thought he had a stomach virus because there was one circulating around the third grade at his school. He was so ill that he could not enjoy his Thanksgiving dinner at all. We would go months without knowing just what was causing his symptoms. Around the same time, my father in law was experiencing unusual symptoms as well. We all tried our best as a family to keep going and enjoy the holiday season but it wasn’t quite the same. To make matters even worse our neighbor and a close friend passed away just a few days after Thanksgiving.
I have been so hesitant about sharing this with you all. I am a pretty private person but hopefully through sharing our story, I can help someone else. This has been a very painful time. I often found myself questioning God. Why so much at one time? Why is my son sick? What did I do wrong? It would take months to find out his diagnosis. Chrohn’s disease. At first I was in denial. I didn’t think that kids could even get that. I thought it was a disease in adolescence or older adults. I really had never even heard of black people having the disease. I hate to even label him as pediatric Chrohn’s. But test after test showed signs of this disease. We have been to several doctors, reached out to specialists, tried a holistic approach, acupuncture and all. He even got better but 6 months later it reappeared.
Choosing a treatment path is one of the hardest things to do. As parents we only want the best for our children. I really don’t like medicines. I will use them if nothing else works but the thought of giving him the wrong medicine or over treating his symptoms at such a young age scared the shit out of me. But here we are a year later and we had to make a decision. I have to trust and pray that the doctor knows more than me and take her advice. In a few weeks we will be starting treatment. I hope and pray that it is the right decision.
After talking to several friends and even strangers over the past few weeks, I have learned that so many of us are going through challenging times. When you are going through it, you think that you are the only one going through hard stuff, or no one understands what you are going through. Everyone paints the perfect picture on social media. But when you take a step back and look around your trials are not hardly as bad as others. I have also learned that we can heal by helping others during their difficult times. Sharing our stories can help too. I have met so many new moms from sharing my story.
So this Thanksgiving we are so very thankful for all of our blessings. We are thankful that we are able to enjoy this thanksgiving dinner together. Our family is a little smaller now. My father in law lost his brief battle with stomach cancer in February. But, sometimes that’s just the way life goes. I am so thankful for my wonderful husband, beautiful children and supportive family and friends. Most importantly, I am thankful for being alive and able to make a difference in the lives of others.
Nicola Rios Nogales says
What a beautiful and honest post! Thank you so much for sharing. It is so helpful and brings healing to others. When your child is sick it is a really gut wrenching thing, I know all too well! You all will be in my thoughts and prayers this holiday season and going forward. 🙏❤️
Lataevia Bayne says
Hey Sharonda…It took a lot of courage to post this on Social Media..mI commend you for that. My husband was also diagnosed with this horeofoc disease. It has no age or color,nor gender. He too tried all kinds of medication and none worled. Colonoscopy along with evwryday symptoms of blood on his stool reminded him that this disease was ever present in his body. I prayed about it and did my research and he changed his diet..got off of the prescribed medication na dprobiotica never worked. But God did answer our prayers and the new diet has worked for the past 9 months. Here it goes.
Soy or Almond milk
No red meat, Turkey or Chicken
No dairy, eggs, cheese only lactaid ice cream
Turkey or Chicken
Plenty of water
Hope you try it.
Coming feom an old time high school friend and True Believer…Happy Holidays and Remember we are “BLESSED” Beyond Measure❤🙏😇
Sharonda, sending hugs and prayers to you, your son and your family as you move through the treatment stage. We have so many things to be thankful for, even when we are going through tough times. Definitely something i have had to keep in the forefront of my mind these past two years, ending my relationship, moving back to my home city and becoming a single mom.
You’re so awesome Sharonda💫
Love you, my friend! Hang in there…. Gods got us all🙏🏼
Sharonda– wow! May God continue to keep that smile on his face! Sickness is just that sick, but attitudes gives us the feelings. I feel a great and grateful attitude as I read this article. With that said, he’s going to be just fine! I plead the blood of Jesus over that disease and I trusting that he is healed! In Jesus name! Amen!🙏🏾
Christine Hartsook says
Thank you for sharing Sharonda! We never know what God has in store for our life but we know it’s for HIS good. You are such a strong momma! You are a blessing to your family and friends. I will pray for your family and your little man. Xoxo
Thank you all for your support! XOXO
My daughter had some scares with her health as well, but I believed that God would heal her and HE did. We went through for a little while, but all I will say is, But God. Praying for your family and your sons complete healing in Jesus name.
Thank you so much Laquita!